Blog Thought #5: “You Don’t Have Time to Dwell on That!”

Since I’ve started my new venture I’ve come to realize the importance of having positive thoughts. Well, actually I’ve known this was important for quite some time now, but never actually considered it when it came to accomplishing goals and dreams.

Starting anything new is challenging. But what’s even more challenging is dealing with your thoughts during the process.

While “going through” we have a tendency to look at others and how well they are doing.

Rule number one: “Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.” – Jon Acuff

NEVER! EVER! As a matter of fact, never compare, period! Because what will happen is you’ll always see how great the other person is doing and how terrible you’re doing. Aside from that, we fail to realize that the other person has Put. In. Work. It’s very much possible that what you’re experiencing as a beginner or newbie, the other person may have experienced as well, but often times we never see that. We hardly ever get a chance to see anyone else’s process. We almost always however, see the outcome or the arrival. Need I say more? Move on!

I don’t know about you, but I’ve had a particularly hard time with that darn “share” button. What I mean by this is, have you ever noticed the amount of nonsense that people will “share” via Facebook, Twitter, or online in general, but will not take the time to share something inspirational or positive? Oh wait, they will share something inspirational or positive, but just not from you. I found myself having a hard time with this, wondering why people would not “share” my posts. I found myself thinking well maybe what I’m doing isn’t good enough to share. But I stopped myself very quickly and said, you don’t have time to dwell on that.

The statement shocked me. And then I said it again as if I didn’t I hear myself the first time. You. Don’t. Have. Time. To dwell on that!

The revelation of what I was really saying to myself started to seep in.

You’ve wasted enough time not believing in yourself. Comparing yourself. Downing yourself. You don’t have time for that!

And the reality of it is–is that I don’t have time to dwell on that or any other negativity that will hinder me from getting through this process.

Negativity, self-doubt, and fear are all designed to keep you from reaching your destination. When you’re going through your process of accomplishing your goal you begin to feel uncomfortable, both because it’s something new to you and because it doesn’t feel good. Naturally, your brain begins to think, no, I don’t like this…I’m going back.

But I’m not.

I’m ready to see what’s on the other side of fear and self-doubt. Aren’t you?


What negative thoughts have you been struggling with? What are you “dwelling” on that’s preventing you from moving forward? I’d love to hear from you…


Stephanie J.





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