Being Single in Public

The other day one of my co-workers randomly approached me and said, “What’s a good movie to watch?” It caught me off guard a little bit, but somehow I managed to bring up my plans to go see “Finding Dory” at the show and mentioned to her that I was going by myself. She gave me the strangest look and said, “By yourself?” at which point I thought I should clarify that I wasn’t going at night time ( as if it made a difference). Then she said, “Oh okay” and gave a sigh of relief. I thought to myself, this further proves my point about being out in public by yourself. For whatever reason, people just think it’s weird to do certain activities by yourself.

I’m not single now. But during the time that I was, I was very fearful and self-conscious about doing things alone because I didn’t want to receive those strange looks like the one I got the other day. It didn’t bother me when she did it, but back then it would have, which was why I would often escape my college town and ride into the city to see a movie instead.

Over time I grew more comfortable with going places by myself. Now, granted you wouldn’t find me at an amusement park by myself (that would be a bit strange, but I’m sure that people have done it). But I would occasionally go to see an early movie, have lunch, or sit in a coffee shop and read a book. Nothing strange about that, right? I mean, people visit entire countries by themselves for crying out loud. It’s all about getting to know one’s self and creating experiences that allow you to search your inner man. And sometimes, it’s not that deep at all. Sometimes, you don’t want to call anyone else up. You just want to spend some time listening to your own thoughts. Is that a crime?

No it isn’t. And I encourage you, if you’re single, to venture out and do some things that you like doing. Are you going to always wait until someone is available for you to get out of the house and do things? I don’t think you should.

Do you like jazz? art?

Get out of the house, go to a museum. Pick up your favorite book or one on a subject that you’re interested in. Go to a coffee shop, sit down and read it…enjoy a beverage.

Is there a movie out that you know none of your friends want to see? Take a trip to the theater and catch and early show. If you go around a certain time of the day and usually when a movie is a couple of weeks old, there is hardly ever anyone in the show except you and a few other people, who, often times you’ll find are there by themselves as well. You watch movies at home by yourself all the time. What’s the difference?

Don’t let what others may think of you hinder you from getting to know yourself. It’s your time. Explore.



7 thoughts on “Being Single in Public

    1. Me either…my boyfriend actually asked me, “So, you were just going to go to the show without me?” Uhhh, yeah lol. I think it’s important to still have some time to yourself…you need it, everyone does! And thank you!!

      Liked by 2 people

  1. Hi Stephanie!

    I’m loving your blog (followed!) but I would also like to invite you to submit a short piece to my own. I think your perspective and style of writing would be a perfect piece for my project.

    It’d also be a great way to get your blog/writing out there.

    Please feel free to email me (jennifer@youngandtwenty) with more questions, or take a look at the ‘BEING Young & Twenty’ page on my blog.

    I hope I’ll hear from you 🙂



Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s